Kuita zvepabonde hetero - ndiyo nzira chaiyo yechokwadi?

Mazuva apo munyika yedu "pakanga pasina zvepabonde", kare kare yakanyura mukutadza. Nhasi, munhu wose asingasviki wakasununguka kukurukura nyaya iyi. Hungu, uye hukama hwepedyo pakati pemhengo dzepabonde imwecheteyo haisisiri nyaya yeCriminal Code, asi mafashoni anofanana. Pasinei nokuti hutano hwepabonde hahuri kutaridzirwa chete, vanogadzirisa zvepfungwa, vanoita zvepabonde uye vamwe varume vakakomba havaneta nokukakavara pamusoro peizvi. Muchiitiko ichi, nharo dzakasimba dzinowanikwa zvose pakati pevatsigiri uye vanopikisa rudo rwepabonde. Kunyange nyanzvi haigoni kunzwisisa mubvunzo uyu. Hatizvigadziri isu pachedu yakadaro zvachose. Basa redu nderokunyora zvinyatsozivikanwa.

Saka, ngatitange nechinhu chikuru. Nzira inowanzozivikanwa ndeye hetero. Kuonekwa kune vamiririri vevasikana vakasiyana-siyana kunowanikwa nevanopfuura 90% yehuwandu hwevanhu . Vanhu vanoita zvepabonde uye bisexuals vashoma zvikuru (zvinoita sokuti, tsika yavo yepabonde inonzi inoparadzaniswa kubva pane zvinowanzoitika).

Kuziva iye pachake semumirire wehupombwe hunoitika mumwana kwemakore kusvika mashanu. Zvadaro, munhu wacho anozviziva zvepabonde uye kutungamirirwa kwechido chepabonde.

Vakawanda vanoita zvepabonde uye vanofunga nezvepfungwa vanofunga kuti maitiro e hetero kana homo anowanikwa muhuduku. Mukuona kwavo, simba guru munyaya iyi rinokonzerwa nekugadzirisa dzidzo dzepabonde.

Zvinowanzogamuchirwa kuti mashokodhi kana mashibii vanokurira mumhuri dzine mubereki ari oga, uko mumwe wevabereki aripo. Ichokwadi, hazvisi zvachose zvakajeka apo mabhirikidzi anobva.

Maererano nedzimwe shanduro - hutano hwepabonde hwakaiswa mudumbu reamai. Uye icho chikonzero chekutsauka kubva kune chimiro chiri zvirwere zvinotapukira. Mazuva ano, nyanzvi dzinowedzera kuchitaura nezvemagariro ehupenyu hwemagariro evanhu pahutano hwehutano hwevechidiki. Zvisinei, zvinoratidzika kuti izvi ndizvo zvinotambudza vezvematongerwe enyika kupfuura vaongorori.

Zvisinei, kunyange musipo kwezvimwe zvipingamupinyi, zvinodiwa zvepabonde zvevanhu vazhinji zvinowanzove zvechigarire. Izvi zvakanyatsosimbiswa nekuedza kwakaitwa neAmerican psychologists.

Kubva kumhuri dzakasiyana-siyana vakagadzira imwe nzvimbo yedhorobha. Maererano nemamiriro ehurumende, hazvitomborambidzwi kuita mhando ipi zvayo yepabonde, kusarudza vashandi maererano nemafungiro avo epabonde.

Kwekanguva mu "mhuri" maitiro asina rusununguko akakunda nekunowanzochinja kwevakaroorana uye mapoka emagariro. Asi mushure mekunge imwe nguva munhu wose akazoputsika muhutano hwemhirizhonga, akaparadzaniswa, uye akatanga kushingairira kuchengetedza ukama hwavo kubva kunze kwekupindira.

Zvechokwadi, kuve nemurume mumwechete uye hetero maitiro ndeye tsika, tsika dzakagadzirwa kare. Asi hazvibviri kutaura kuti iyi ndiyo chete nzira inogona kuitika yekukweverwa zvepabonde. Kune dzimwe nzira dzingatatu dzinoshandiswa kune referencing behavior model.

Nenzira iyo, maCanagist psychologist vakapa kupa rubatsiro rwevamwe vashoma nevanoshamba navo pamwe chete. Mukuona kwavo, izvi ndizvo zvakafanana zvepabonde sebi, kana kuti homo.

Iye zvino zvishoma pamusoro pekuti kutsauka kunobva pachimiro kunoumbwa sei. Ruzhinji rwevanhu vari pamwe chete rune ruzivo runotsanangura tsika dzepabonde dzevanhurume vanoita zvepabonde seupombwe. Zvinotoshamisa, kuvakadzi - vatsigiri vekuita zvepabonde nemafungiro evanhukadzi, mafungiro anonyanya kutsungirira.

Zvisinei, masayendisiti anotenda kuti midzi yedambudziko iri yakadzama. Kwenguva yokutanga kutarisa dambudziko rehuchani, sechimwe chepfungwa dzevanhu, Carl Ulrichs (1825-1895) akasarudza, uyo pachake aive nemafungiro asina kukodzera. Somunhu anofarira, akaenderera mberi panyaya yacho kwazvo uye mumakore mashomanana akabudiswa pepa yesayenzi "Kudzidza kwechakavanzika cherudo pakati pevarume."

Nenzira, izwi rokuti "zvepabonde" raishandiswa naye. Vazhinji venguva yake havana kutsigira waaishanda navo. Maererano nemafambiro epanguva iyoyo kutungamirira gakava mumabhuku, Richard Kraft-Ebing akanyora bhuku rake, iro raakadana ungochani chete "kuparara kwepfungwa."

Zvinonzwisisika, asi nhasi kune huwandu hwevatsigiri veyiyi pfungwa, iyo inokurudzira nzira dzakasiyana-siyana dzekugadzirisa pfungwa dzepfungwa dzekusava nemafungiro pakusarudza munhu wepabonde. Zvisinei, hapana zviitiko zve "kuporesa kunoshamisa" zvakaratidzwa kusvika ikozvino.

Kune vedotericist munyaya ino pane maonero ega. Vanodavira kuti hukama hwepabonde imwechete hahupi hunoita kuti huwirirane, nokuti havakwanisi zvinhu zviviri (varume nevakadzi). Kutaura pamusoro pekuda pakati pevashandi vari munyaya iyi hakugamuchirwi zvachose.
Zvisinei, kudzidzisa, kurayiridza, kutaura kune dzidziso dzechitendero uye maonero ehuzhinji angave akawanda sezvaunoda. Asi usakanganwa kuti munhu wese ane kodzero yekurasa muviri wake pachake. Mhinduro chete yekugadzirisa dambudziko rinogona kungova nemoyo murefu uye kushivirira mafungiro kune avo vanoita vashomanana.