"Chepfu" ushamwari: nei uchifanira kusiya izvozvo?

Vanhu vari zvisikwa nomuzvarirwo zvemagariro. Vazhinji vedu vanoda kuva ruzha boka reshamwari nehama. Izvi anotibvumira unakirwe uye mugove nazvo. A muenzaniso wakanaka uyu muitiro ndiko kuputika kuchangobva kukurumbira munzanga network. Sezvaunogona kuona, vanhu vanoda kukurukura uye uchitsvaga pfungwa navo mumwe.

Dr. Arthur Aron, mutungamiriri Laboratory pakati interpersonal ukama paUniversity pamaware Brook anoti: "Friendly kwomurume zvikuru kuti utano hwevanhu, uye ichi hazvishamisi. Pane zvidzidzo zvakawanda kuti vakaratidza kuwirirana pakati mafungiro uye kunetsa.

Kudiwa mumagariro kusangana

Neuroscientists vari saka kushandiswa kutsanangura munhu kudiwa ushamwari: uropi hwedu kwakaitika shanduka pezvakaitwa zvakaumba zvimwe zvigadziriswe kuti kudzora chido vabatane munzanga mumapoka. Saka, muna cerebral cortex uropi ndiwo mapazi anonzi neocortex, kana kuhukura itsva. Muvanhu, dhipatimendi iri kupfuura mune dzimwe mhuka. Neocortex ndiye anokonzera kweiyi dzakakwirira evanhu cognition, kunzwira urombo, kukwanisa kunzwisisa manzwiro nevavariro nevamwe. Zvinosuruvarisa kuti izvi hazvisati zvave havaratidzi mune vamwe vanhu.

zvakunobatsira unhu

Pasinei zhinji neurobiological uchapupu kuziva zvinodiwa murume mumagakava kusangana, havatauri pamusoro chido vanhu kumisa uye kuchengetedza ukama hwakanaka. Asi, sezvo zvino tinoziva, vamwe zvingava zvakunobatsira nokuda kwedu mupfungwa uye utano. Saka pane "vanhu chepfu" - shamwari, chepfu hwedu uye vanoonekwa chete nezvavanoda. Nei uchifanira kuramba kukurukura nemunhu akadaro? Nokuti kutanga tinotarisa chii chiri "chepfu" ushamwari.

Ndechipi ushamwari "chepfu"?

Kucherechedza kwake shamwari zvakunobatsira unhu, kupindura mibvunzo mishoma nyore:

• shamwari yako inoita kuti ufare?
• Hunoita nani kwauri kuti?
• It anotaura newe uye "kusuruvara uye nomufaro"?
• Uri akatendeseka shamwari yako, zvisinei zvinorema sei?
• Ko munhu uyu anoona zvinogona mamuri, kunyange kana musingadi kuona?
• kana kuminyuka iwe kumusoro?

Kana wapindura nezvinenge mibvunzo yakawanda, shamwari yako iri mumiririri akakurumbira vanhu "chepfu".

munhu uyu anokwanisa kukurwadzisa uye regai ruregerero. Acharamba kutarisira nyasha dzenyu pasina kupa chimwe chinhu. It anotaura newe kubatsira, nokuti akashandisa kutora nguva dzose, asi Ivan Kuchin basa atrophied. Ari kukurukurirana zviri asingatani kwira mutambo vanowedzeredza uye kupera rekusuwa vakamupoteredza. All zviito ake uye mashoko zvachose kupikisa pfungwa "ushamwari". Pane imwe "asi": kubva ushamwari zvakunobatsira hakusi nyore kubvisa. shamwari yako akanamatira kwamuri somunhu chikwevaropa. Achaedza unotofanira kuramba vachinakidzwa nyasha dzenyu.

Unovhunduka kudzivisa Sever ukama

shamwari chepfu anoziva utera zvenyu zvose. Iye anonyatsoziva enyu akanaka unhu haana kuti hauzoregi iwe usiyane womumwe murume zvachose. Iwe achamira iye parutivi nokuda tsitsi, mutsa kana tsitsi. Dzimwe nguva unogona kufukidza kutya kuti kusiyiwa kukurukurirana uchava kukuvadza munhu iyeye. Zvino iwe kutanga kupembedza zviito uye vavariro shamwari yake, Kutaura kwaari unhu havapo. Asi chii kana tikatarisa mamiriro ezvinhu kubva akasiyana pakona? Ukaramba kudhonza ari shamwari "chepfu", uye vaigona kutuma zvakanaka simba mugwara rakanaka. Zvirokwazvo pane zvakawanda zvakanaka vanhu vari zvakakupoteredza.

Sezvo vanhu ava vari Kusvibisa hwako?

In kaunda-zvibereko vanhu vane yakawanda husina kunaka. Mumwe wavo ari chiri achidhonza yake yomukati denderedzwa zvakanaka simba. Kutaura zvazviri, vari simba zvipoko. Uri kuda kupa vamwe vavo munyika zvinhu munhu haazombobvumiri kukutendai nayo? Nehanya nevamwe - ndiwo hwakanaka, asi kune avo here rubatsiro chete. Kana tiri kutaura pamusoro opportunists, vanoita sezvinoita kutsigisa igwa hombe, izvo pakupedzisira vachava kunonotsa iwe mugomba rakadzikadzika.

Itai vanoziva sarudzo

Kanganwa pamusoro voruzhinji uye navamwe shamwari yako zvekufungidzira. Uyu hakuzochinji chinhu, uye zvichaita nguva dzose kuramba tiomerere mutsetse yavo. nditende, kana uchida unogona kuwana nyore kubva samambure ukama "chepfu". Itai vanoziva sarudzo uye vanopedza simba rako munhu akafanira zvechokwadi izvozvo. Uye ipapo uchawana kunzwa kukuru!