How kukurukura nemwana wenyu? Gippenreiter Yu, nyanzvi Moscow State University of Psychology, anotaura nezvazvo mubhuku rake rinonzi,

How kukurukurirana mwana, Gippenreiter yb Zvaanozivisa mapeji rake rinonzi, iyo akunda kukurumbira pamwe vabereki rose.

Kunyanya pakubata mwana kugamuchirwa isiyo uye isiyo, non-kutonga rudo. Hazvina isiyo, kureva, "Saizvozvo", ndizvo saka, chii aripo chete kuti pane. Kudzidza kutaura kubva nemaonero mubereki ane rudo uye kubvuma, kwete akatsamwa uye kutaura dzinofunga kubatsira kuwana mhinduro, pasina chinokutsimbirirai mwana, dzidza kutakura zvimwe basa yemigumisiro inopiwa dzakadaro Gippenreiter Yu.

Maererano munyori, kuratidza kusagutsikana chero zviito mwana, munogona kukurukura uye kutsoropodza chete zviito nemabasa, uyewo nemigumisiro dzavo, asi chero zvazvingava, kwete mwana. Uye ivai nechokwadi kutarisa chokwadi kuti ayo kuita kuti mwoyo iwe, asi haana kukanganiswa ukama wako mwana, asi chete zvikuru iwe kugumbuka. kureva kunyange vachipomera mwana mabasa, isu kumupa kunzwisisa kuti zvichiri kukosha uye anokosha kwatiri, anoti Julia Gippenreiter. Kutaura mwana anofanira kugara kukurukura zvose afarira kutaura pamusoro chero wenyaya, pachena uye confidentially. Zvisinei, kwete nguva dzose vakagadzirira nokuti, kwete chete mwana asi mubereki.

Teerera kunzwa

Saka sei kukurukura nemwana wenyu? Gippenreiter yb rinokurudzira ishe magadzirirwo kuti "vanoshingaira yokuteerera", iro anobvumira kumisa kuonana nemunhu uye kuratidza kuti matambudziko ayo pedyo newe, kuti iwe unzwisise uye urombo. Detail inorondedzerwa mubhuku Yu Gippenreiter "Kubata mwana. How "Maererano munyori, kodzero kuvaka nhaurirano uye akaisa mwana chat -? Vokutanga matanho kugadzirisa dambudziko.

Chimwe chidobi, izvo zvinoita kuti kusarudza sei kubata mwana, Gippenreiter yb Anodana nzira "Ini - mashoko". I kurishandisa kuratidza mafungiro avo, kuti manzwiro avo pamusoro ano kusawirirana mamiriro ezvinhu, tisingabvumiri kunyatsoongorora zvakaitwa interlocutor. Muenzaniso "Ini - mashoko" ndiro okuti "Ini ndiri mwoyo chaizvo nokuti bopoto yanhasi" pane. "Iwe - mashoko" "Imi vakaita zvinonyangadza, uye Ndakashatirwa" "Ini - mashoko", maererano munyori, hazvibhadharisi, asi chete kuratidza mafungiro enyu chiitiko, zvakakosha kutaura munhu, ndoda ane mwana, kuyaruka. Pamusana nzira iyi kukurukura hakuiti vanotambura nokuzviremekedza mwana, haana akabata ake nokuzviremekedza uye hakuna kudzivirira kusafarira.

Dzidziso uye tsika

Uye sei kukurudzira mwana kuti kuita chinhu, kukurira nemishonga, pasina uchaiputsa uye kwete squashing chomubereki, sei kuwana mutauro nevakawanda ne "zvakaoma" kuyaruka, kukunda kuzvibvisa uye voga? Bhuku rine dzakawanda dzinoshanda mazano uye nyaya chaidzo-upenyu inoratidza mhinduro dzakawanda zvemo ezvinhu. Tapedza chikamu vari homuweki hwakakwana negashiro aakaudzwa. Kuita pavo pachava zvaiitwa uye dzosa kubva ndangariro mukoto panguva yakakodzera.

On wokuti: "sei kukurukura nemwana wenyu 'Gippenreiter yb kwete chete anopa mhinduro yakarurama. Iye zvinoratidza kufunga, kushandira, urombo, kudzidza kufunga kunze bhokisi, tora mwana uye Chokwadi pakutanga yeuka kuti aida, chizvarwa uye anoramba waunoda vanhu.